Author Archives: Rhian Sherrington


Written Down or Visualise – Which Way to Goal Success?


We all know that having and achieving goals is an important aspect of living a fulfilling and meaningful life. It gives us confidence and motivation. It allows us to recognise accomplishments in our lives, something many of us can find hard to do. For many people, just giving ourselves permission to have goals can be a barrier. For others, trying to realise their dreams and ambitions brings them face to face to enemy number one, fear – of failure, of being judged, of being too successful – the list is endless.

Successful goal achievement is the one of the fundamental benefits of working with a coach. We help you identify not just any old goal but powerful, inspiring goals that are congruent to who you really are and what’s truly important to you. We enable you to work out where it is you want to go by getting your vision crystal clear and using that to work for you as a powerful motivator for action.

Once we’re proficient with setting congruent goals, the next important step is understanding how we should be using them to greatest effect.

For many, it’s writing them down that is the essential part. Whilst the popularly quoted study about Harvard students is a myth, a study undertaken at Dominican University does support the belief that those who write them down and create some accountability towards achieving them (either by sharing with a friend or coach), will be much more successful in accomplishing them.


Many others put tremendous store in visualising goals, seeing the mental preparation in our minds eye as being a key part of attracting that into our field (think Law of Attraction). It’s also seen as a vital means of training our subconscious to align our decisions and actions with what it is we want to do. Visualisation, without doubt, is a very powerful tool that many highly successful Olympic athletes, speakers and business people use. But can you rely on visualisation alone?

One research study reported by Amy Brann in her acclaimed book ‘Make Your Brain Work‘, examined the improvements in finger muscle tone in groups of people who actually did the finger exercising compared to those who just visualised it happening. Amazingly enough, the later group of ‘visualizers’ saw a 22% increase in muscle tone over the study period compared to a 20% increase in muscle tone of those who actually did the exercising…

From seeing the success in the clients I work with, and from personal experience, I’d say if you were to combine the two techniques, you’re going to be flying – and getting real results.

Choose2Flourish Ltd

We all know that having and achieving goals is an important aspect of living a fulfilling and meaningful life. It gives us confidence and motivation. It allows us to recognise accomplishments in our lives, something many of us can find hard to do. For many people, just giving ourselves permission to have goals can be a barrier. For [...]

22 West Mall
BS8 4BQ Bristol

Email address



Powerful executive, career and confidence coaching services for purpose-led professionals

» get directions on Google Maps
Be yourself; everyone else is already taken

Behaviours of Confident People

Confidence is one of the most admired traits in people. But how can we recognise the behaviours associated with confidence so that we can learn to behave in these ways as well?shutterstock_148055588

Consider the following behaviours that can mark a confident person. A confident person…

  • Believes in their own abilities, talents and strengths, and is not paralyzed by doubts. They have assurance in their own beliefs and are not looking for the approval of others, knowing it’s not needed.
  • Knows they have much to offer the world, and respect the value they bring to life. They treat others well and expect the same in return. They are not hesitant to safeguard their own rights.
  • Is certain, yet realistic, about the goals they will accomplish. They believe in their plans, and failure is regarded as a temporary setback or challenge. A confident person is comfortable in taking on challenges and acting even in the face of risk.
  • Identifies themselves with other confident people. They celebrate others’ successes and relish in the realization of people’s inherent potential.
  • Dreams big and acts on those dreams. They can picture themselves as successful in whatever they do.
  • Accepts the recognition of others and does not diminish or deflect such recognition as if they believe it can’t possibly be warranted.
  • Accepts themselves as they are, yet are open to feedback that will help them become better.
  • Is open to new ideas and is willing to entertain them.


  • Is willing to accept mistakes.
  • Is always ready to do their best.


Confidence is like a muscle – it has to be exercised to get strong. It requires plenty of preparation and practice, and can be achieved by anyone who has a desire to be more confident in their lives!

How are you exercising your ‘confidence muscle’?

4 Ways to Make Deposits into Your Confidence Bank Account

It’s all too easy to overlook the wonderful things about ourselves when the world is constantly pointing out the things that are not. It’s important for us to be in charge of our own ‘confidence bank account’ and to make many deposits so we do not become overdrawn when the world makes withdraws. Additionally, we must not to rob ourselves with negative self talk, but overflow our confidence bank account with positive thoughts about who we are and what we are capable of.

Here are some boosters that can help keep your confidence bank account full:

#1 – Be aware of your successes.

Keep track of your successes. Literally write them down on a log or in a journal. Keep a record of all successes, both great and small. By writing them down you can review them. This way when self-doubt sneaks in to your mind, you can review your successes and reframe your current challenges in a more positive light. Every time you do something right, make sure you also reward yourself. A reward can be as small as praise, or as big as a formal celebration. Get in the habit of recognizing and rewarding yourself for succeeding in life rather than punishing yourself for coming up short.

#2 – Be aware of your abilities.

What are your abilities? What are the skills you have gained through training and experience? Keep an “I’m good at” list as a reminder of what you are capable of on those days when you feel like nothing is going right. We can feel insecure about our self-worth when we give too much attention to our flaws. So change what you are looking at by reminding yourself of the skills and abilities you possess.

#3 – Be aware of your talents.

What are your talents? What comes naturally to you? Talents, which are innate, are different than abilities, which are learned. The next time you feel a lack of confidence, remind yourself of the talents you naturally possess. Talents don’t come and go; they are with you all the time. You have every reason in the world to remain confident knowing that you always have talents that can be accessed and used when you need them.

#4 – Be aware of the compliments others give you.

Truly listen for the compliments given to you by others. Compliments reveal the value that others see in us. When you hear yourself saying, “I don’t have what it takes”, or “I never do anything right” stop listening to that voice and replace those thoughts by remembering the compliments others have given you. We may sometimes make withdraws from our own account, but positive thinking can overcome any negative thinking that may have been robbing us.

Conclusion? We need to learn to be positive. By being aware of the thoughts, words and actions that shake us, we can take change withdraws from our confidence bank account into deposits that bring us abundance.

Making a choice

To Decide or Choose: That’s The Question

The word decision comes from the Latin root decidere, which means to cut off from. When you make a decision, you cut off all other possibility. Think about that. When you decide, you restrict your choice and have to commit to a certain path of action.

Making a choice
Now there are times when that kind of commitment is vitally important. When my husband and I made the conscious decision that we wanted children, we knew we were making a decision that would, if successful, transform our lives. When I set up my business ‘Choose2Flourish’, I made a conscious and determined decision to be successful. When you commit, you bring focus and energy to that ‘cutting off’ process, which can be highly empowering and motivating.

However, it doesn’t always work out that way.

When you make a decision to change job, move house or leave a partner, you are acutely aware of what you are ‘cutting yourself off from’ with often no real idea of what the other side of that decision really looks like.

How that lands with you really depends on how ready you are for that change, your natural tolerance level of sitting with risk and uncertainty and what levels of ‘perfection’ are you seeking in making that decision. For many, when faced with such a combination of factors, we can freeze up and be unable to commit to any course of action at all.

This can be why, years down the line, you may still be sitting in that ‘making do’ job, procrastinating over whether to leave or to go, meanwhile experiencing a slow, probably unconscious erosion of your self-efficacy and confidence. So based on personal experience, that of my clients and from all the development courses I’ve invested in and books I’ve read over the years, may I offer a couple of suggestions.

1. Don’t ‘decide’. Choose instead. Identify a variety (but not too many as too many choices can paralyse us again) of choices that you can select from. See yourself as choosing a course of action.

2. Make that choice using a small, clear list of criteria based on what you know is truly important to you. That means knowing your values, having sufficient insight into who you are and what will make you happy, fulfilled. Choice suggests there are a variety of opportunities still there for you. You may make a choice now and if it doesn’t work out, you can come back and choose again. That feels different now doesn’t it?

2. Ask yourself, how perfect does your ‘choice’ need to be? That in itself is the topic for another article, so for now, just be aware of your headline criteria and don’t demand too much. Seeing our lives as a learning journey can be very freeing.

Childhood Dreams

Three Tips to Help Find Your True Vocation From Childhood Dreams

Remember those dreams you had as a kid?

The ones where you’d confidently state you’d be singer, an artist, a circus performer? Or perhaps you wanted to be a scientist, an inventor, or a teacher?

I wanted to either be an artist in a studio, or an actress. I’d write and perform plays whenever I got the chance and an unsuspecting audience. I’d set up my paints in the back garden and recreate the apple tree in fantastic detail and colours. The time just whizzed by. What did you think you’d be ‘when you were a grown up’?

Childhood Dreams

For most of us, we don’t actually become what we say at 7, 8 or 9 years old. For a lucky few however, those early seeds do provide the actual signposting of a lifelong passion. My twin sister was, as far as I can tell, born knowing she wanted to be a doctor. When she graduated from her medical school, I was in tears of joy, recognising the dedication, determination and belief she had put in to realising that childhood ambition.

So what does that say to the rest of us? What if I told you that those early assertions of purpose do actually hold the kernel to your life satisfaction and happiness?

Paulo Coelho in ‘The Alchemist’ talks about the heart giving out nudges that, when listened to quietly, provide all the insight and guidance a person could need. The heart shouts out the loudest in the young but as we get older, things get in our way. We learn to get scared, we start to doubt our abilities and take on other peoples’ perspectives and experiences.

When we stop listening to our heart and allow the fear to take over, we settle, we give up and our lives are less fulfilled as a result. Reflecting back on what made our hearts sing in childhood, what we confidently proclaimed to any pesky inquiring adult, may have more bearing on your current adult life than you think.

Tip 1: Reflect fully on what you wanted as a child.

Behind the immature language, what were you really saying? If it was ‘to be a doctor’, was it the helping people, the status of the white coat, your interest in how our bodies work? What, in more adult language, lies at the core of what you were saying?

Tip 2: Consider where and how you lost track of time as a child and ask yourself whether you are still bringing those things into your life now.

As well as creating and performing, it was whizzing along lanes on my bike, enjoying the sense of freedom and speed. Cycling still opens up the same feelings for me and I know I am simply ‘better’ after time spent outdoors. What about you?

Tip 3: Look at the small, tiny ways you could bring your ‘childhood’ dreams into your life now.

Looking out of my window to the Clifton suspension bridge from my new studio base last week, I suddenly recalled my ‘artist in a studio’ ambition. And here it was. Creating, yes – coaching my clients is definitely that, coming up with new ways to support a smooth and fruitful positive transition. Working by myself, in an environment far removed from a typical office situation.

Speaking at the launch of a new network for Bristol based PAs last week, I was also bringing into my life the other aspect that so enthralled me as a child – performing. With my adult eyes, I can see how standing in front of a crowd, with a message to share, fulfils me at a very deep level.

So what about you?

How can you recall your young self and that youthful heart – what nudges was your heart giving you then and what can you do now?

I’d love to know what resonates here with you so do get in touch.

Choose2Flourish Ltd

Remember those dreams you had as a kid? The ones where you’d confidently state you’d be singer, an artist, a circus performer? Or perhaps you wanted to be a scientist, an inventor, or a teacher? I wanted to either be an artist in a studio, or an actress. I’d write and perform plays whenever I [...]

22 West Mall
BS8 4BQ Bristol


  • +44 (0) 7875812477

Email address



Navigating a life or career crossroads can be a breeze with Choose2Flourish by your side. You can step up or find a new direction, ensuring the next phase in your life is truly amazing.
Powerful career, confidence and life coaching services by Rhian Sherrington

» get directions on Google Maps

Are You Being Heard in Work?

You’re in a meeting and you get a great idea. You speak up and share your thoughts but it kind of gets passed over. Later on in the same meeting, a colleague pipes up with your suggestion but this time is does get heard and action is taken to implement your idea.

Sound Familiar? shutterstock_173611466

If this does happen to you, chances are you are female and it’s likely that the colleague, who gets heard with your idea, is a man. He may or may not claim the idea to be his own and you may or may not remind the group that it was your idea in the first place. Whatever the follow up scenario, you’re likely to be left feeling unheard and wondering why you’re so ineffective in getting your ideas picked up. You may think it’s okay, at least the action is being taken, but in the long term, you run the risk of your value and contribution not being recognised or rewarded.

So what is going on here? Well what’s going on is the effect of the differences in men and women’s linguistic style.

Men and Women’s Linguistic Style

Linguistic style is your characteristic speaking pattern. It’s how direct or conversational you are, your rate of speech and length of pausing; it’s your tone of voice, your loudness. According to Deborah Tannen, professor of linguistics at Georgetown University, Washington and author of 15 books, linguistic style is a set of culturally learned signals that communicate what we mean and how we interpret other people and evaluate one another. Women it seems, learn a different linguistic style from men, which places them at a disadvantage as it can make them seem less confident and self- assured that they really are.

Sheryl Sandberg’s current ‘ban bossy’ campaign touches on these differences between men and women. In childhood, girls focus on building rapport through conversations, they learn how to ‘save face’ for others and for many, they learn not to be too self-promoting as they believe they won’t be liked for it. In contrast, boys learn about asserting their status, about pushing for ‘top dog’ and ensuring they’re always in a ‘one up’ position. Even if you don’t agree this should be the case, think back on how assertive, self-promoting women have made you feel in the past and ask yourself, would you judge them differently if that linguistic style had come from a man?

So for a man, claiming “I do this’ is second nature; Women are far more likely to avoid using ‘I’ and go for a collaborative ‘we’ instead.  Asking questions may be very helpful in building consensus and for many women, is a natural managerial style but for many, especially men, this can be perceived as putting themselves in a ‘one down’ situation and to be avoided at all costs. Say goes for saying sorry. Fortunately the growth in awareness and application of emotional intelligence in managerial and leadership development has helped us see how collaborative and coaching styles have so much more to offer to teams and individuals than old style, dictatorial approaches, but childhood socialisation has a long-lived impact.

Taking Turns to Speak

Another aspect of linguistic style concerns how long a pause we leave or need after someone has stopped talking and we take our turn to speak. Gender differences have a real bearing here, along with culture, where you live and so on. For some, the pause is hardly discernible and they’re straight in, offering their thoughts. For others, the pause needs to be longer, they need to consider what was just said and they’re checking that the speaker has, indeed, finished. You can imagine what happens when, in a group of fast talkers who jump in before someone has really finished, you have someone who needs a longer pause before they feel ready to contribute. They never see the window they need to speak and so don’t or are unable. Women have a tendency to fall into this category of needing longer pauses, so you can see how that could be perceived as a lack of confidence and self-assurance in a situation when everyone else is cutting in.

Being Stroppy

Being a Welsh comprehensive educated girl, when I went up to Oxford University to start my Geography degree, one of the biggest shocks I had in my tutorials was the ‘jumping in’ of my all-male (mainly privately educated) peers. I couldn’t get a word in edgeways and when I did, I was often interrupted and cut short. I found it very upsetting and remember feeling angry and powerless about how to change the situation. I did learn to be more assertive and adjusted my own pacing to match that around me, but it wasn’t my natural style. How this did me some discredit I learned much later when attending the retirement lunch for one of my old tutors. “Ah yes Rhian, I remember you. You were always so stroppy”.  I obviously didn’t get the balance right between being authentic and flexing my style at that stage in my life!

So What To Do?

Nancy Klein in her book ‘A Time to Think’ calls for organisations to adopt principles that promote a proper ‘thinking environment’.  Her ten components to doing that recognise the importance of listening to each other, of asking incisive questions that help people ‘speak and think’.  Creating the right environment where all individuals can be encouraged to contribute is key, with awareness that team meetings tend to bring out the best in men, but not necessarily women.

As women, we should allow ourselves to use “I’ rather than ‘we’ on more occasions. Being aware of the linguistic culture of our organisations and teams may also help work out why we’re not being heard. Cultivating a flexible style of communication to reflect the preferences of who you are speaking with can be very useful.  Facilitating and encouraging better listening is beneficial for both men and women.

You don’t need to shout, push in or get ‘stroppy’ to be heard. The impression and impact we create is not just about the words we use – it’s our tone of voice and our body language. Research has shown that 55% of our impact on others comes from our body language, the ‘dance’, 38% from our tone of voice, ‘the music’ and only 7% from our words. Develop insights on the impact you are having through self-reflection and ask for feedback from a trusted source. Being heard is a question of appreciating your ‘words, music and dance’ and how to get them working for you.

Successful people know where they are going


A Flourishing Path

A Flourishing Path

How we define success is very personal. There are many, many books out there that will tell you all about the various strategies, steps and tools. Some will ring true for you and others will leave you wondering if everyone is off on another planet.

Personally, I define success as having a rounded and grounded perspective on a life lived with purpose and meaning; being able to use my strengths to accomplish things of value and importance to me, combined with a capacity to feel and give joy and gratitude. Well, that is what it feels like to me right now – I’ll probably come up with slightly different words tomorrow – but the essence will be the same.

In a nutshell, it’s about fully knowing the ‘why’s’ behind your decisions on what to focus on, and being sufficiently self aware and tuned in to others, to both self manage, and to manage with compassion, your impact on others.

To expand on that a little.

Successful people know where they are going. In all likelihood they;

* creatively use their strengths to thrive at work, at home;

* are open to new possibilities;

* enjoy excellent relationships with others;

* have learnt how to manage daily stresses;

* are self aware and know how to be authentically themselves; and

* invest time to reflect and grow.


I think age helps! A life lived through it’s natural transitions and stages brings wisdom for many. Whilst we’ve a long way to go before we venerate the ‘Third Age’ as much as the Chinese or Hindu culture’s, perhaps we are seeing a shift in attitude as the ‘Baby Boomer’ generation in this country heads out into their Third (and Fourth?) Age. There’s nothing quite like sharing your thoughts with an ‘elder’ to help put your current concerns into perspective.

However, if you’ve not quite got to that point of ‘wise old sage’ yet yourself, starting to prioritise a bit of ‘me-time’ to reflect, read and question is, I think, essential. Often that can get shoved to one side as our various roles make their multiple demands of us. There is a very good reason though, why the life jackets get put on the adults first and not the infants. You’ve got to sort yourself out before you can be of any use to others. Spending time alone can be really helpful in this regard, but so can meeting up with others who use a similar definition to ‘success’ as yourself.

Which is why I am delighted to be running a short course of ‘Choose 2 Flourish’ workshops in Bristol starting on 23rd May. We’re going to be using some great tools and models to broaden our thinking, develop our awareness and self management, and work on the stuff that matters to us. If you’re in Bristol, and this post has rung your bell, then click on the link below to get the full details.

Focus on your strengths – It will make you happier and more effective: Part 2

SO, WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS? shutterstock_81178216

How do you know what your strengths are? You are probably aware of some, but identifying your strengths can be tricky. This is due partly to our innate ‘tuning into’ the negative about ourselves or situation, and the difficulty we all have in recognising what we are truly good at!

One way is to ask yourself what strengths you have just used when you have done something you feel good about.  You could also try asking a friend or trusted colleague who you feel can give you honest feedback (itself a real skill).

Research shows there are 24 character strengths recognised across cultures as being inherently desirable human traits.  Martin Seligman has used these as the basis for his ‘VIA Character Strengths Tests’ questionnaire which is available, for free, on his website You need to register and the questionnaire will take about 40 minutes to fill in. That time is well spent however, as the results can be truly illuminating.


If you do ask for feedback on your strengths, it’s worth noting how hard it can sometimes be to actually hear a strength being identified in you, or indeed for others to hear it said of themselves.  How many times have you heard, or said yourself, “Oh it was nothing” or “the others did it, I did very little” when being praised for something done well, whether it be at work or in your personal life. Giving and receiving positive feedback is a skill, and given that it can be so powerful in shaping many things, not just our ability to identify strengths, it’s good to know that we can all learn to give and receive it.


Here’s where providing evidence for the strength is so valuable. Next time you listen to a friend or colleague talk about something that went well, identify a strength they used in order to achieve what they did. Identify specifically what they did so when you then feed their use of that strength back to them, you can provide the evidence.  See and feel how different things appear by trying it out when you don’t use the evidence.  For me, it carries far more impact when my husband tells me I’m good with people when he also refers back to the specifics of the situation he has perhaps just seen me in, letting me see the strengths of kindness, patience and empathy, for example.  Collecting your evidence of where and when you have used your strengths is a great activity for building up your self-confidence and self-belief in your abilities.


The next, essential step, is to actively use your strengths in different ways across your day. Remember, using your strengths builds positive emotion, opening you up to new ideas and alternative ways of thinking. You’ll feel good and will be more likely to ‘get into flow’ at work or whatever activity you need to focus on, when you are applying your strengths. (Go back to Part 1 of this blog series if you’ve forgotten why it matters).

As a mum, I’m aware how powerful this all is for my children. I help them recognise the things they have done well and encourage them to reflect back on things they feel good about. Being a coach I find it fairly natural to bring into use all those great empowering questions with them, such as “How did that make you feel?”, “What did you learn from that?” And “How could you use (insert strength) with (new challenge or difficulty)? I actively help them identify their strengths, celebrate their use and encourage them to think of where they can apply their ‘good skills’ to tackle their problems.

I’m still not brilliant at doing it for myself though. So, time to apply a bit more positive psychology on me I think, and here’s an immediate opportunity: how can I use my ‘optimism, zest and energy for life’ to work out an approach to cooking dinner for the children when much of it is likely to be immediately scraped back into the compost bin…

Still optimistic that the next day's dinner will be eaten...

Still optimistic that the next day’s dinner will be eaten…

Focus on your strengths – It will make you happier and more effective


When did you last tell yourself this?

When did you last tell yourself this?

What makes it so hard for us to acknowledge what we are good at?

Why is it that at the end of the day, we remember the stuff we didn’t do so well whilst experiencing amnesia over the great things we actually achieved?

Apparently it’s all to do with our evolutionary make-up. Focusing on where we need to improve helped us to evolve as a species, prevented us from being eaten and enabled us to adapt to the many challenges that were faced.

Today, an awareness of our strengths can be hugely beneficial. On an individual level, how we were parented has a considerable influence on how easily we can tune into what we are good at. Regardless of our ‘starting point’, the good news is that we can all learn to cultivate more awareness of our strengths, and use that information to ‘float our boat’ and navigate it through turbulent times, at work or at home.


It matters for several, important reasons.

  1. If you know and consciously use aspects of yourself you are good at, you’ll feel more positive and that in itself brings about huge benefits. For example, this includes being able to think more expansively and more creatively, as explored by Barbara Fredrickson in her ‘broaden and build theory of positive emotions’ (Positivity, 2009). This now well accepted theory states that positivity opens our minds, making us more receptive and more creative, whilst enabling us to build new skills, new knowledge, new ways of being.
      Going back to our ancestry, Fredrickson states “positive emotions were consequential to our human ancestors because over time those good feelings broadened our ancestor’s mindsets and built their resources for the future”  (2009). Working from our strengths, designing ways in which we can use more of them, more often, can be a highly successful way of bringing in more positive emotions into our daily lives.
  2. Knowing what our strengths are gives us a way of dealing with challenges. When you work from a place of strength, you are far more likely to be successful. As you accomplish more, you build more and more evidence of your abilities. Success breeds success, so applying your strengths to help you tackle difficult situations or conversations, for example, helps you build the self-belief and self-confidence to do more. It’s a virtuous circle, which when consciously acknowledged can be very powerful.
      Recently a coaching client of mine was having difficulty seeing their strengths, and keeping an evidence log in the form of a ‘what went well and why’ exercise made all the difference in building that awareness and insight.
  3. Knowing what your strengths are can also help you be aware of your ‘shadow’ side. This is the opposite, unhelpful aspect of having that strength. For example, ‘a love of excellence’ has a shadow of being a perfectionist; ‘optimism, zest and energy for life’ (one of mine) can also lead you to overcommitting and needing to take a few reality checks. Transactional Analysis (a theory of communication) frames someone’s character traits you may find annoying as a ‘strength overdone’. Developing insights to where you (and others) are perhaps overdoing some strengths can lead to better relationships, at work, at home, with friends, family and colleagues.
  4. Acting from our strengths makes it easier for us to go into ‘flow’ at work and find what we do more satisfying (Johnstone, 2013).  ‘Flow’ has been the subject of considerable research in the field of positive psychology. One leading researcher, Mikaly Csikszentmihalyi states that flow is “the state in which people are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter” (Flow, 1991). Researchers Clifton and Harter who reviewed work across this field concluded that workers who “have the opportunity to do what they do best every day” show less staff turnover, better customer loyalty and higher productivity (2003).

In Part 2, we examine how to identify your strengths and use them creatively across your daily life.


Clifton, D. & Harter, J. K. (2003). Investing in strengths. In K. S., Cameron, J.E. Dutton, & R. E. Quinn, (Eds), Positive organizational scholarship: Foundations of a new discipline (pp. 111-121). San Francisco, CA: Berrett- Koehler

Csikszentmihalyi, M. (2002), Flow: The Psychology of Happiness: The Classic Work on How To Achieve Happiness. Rider

Fredrickson, B. (2009), Positivity: Groundbreaking Research to Release Your Inner Optimist and Thrive. Oneworld Publications

Johnstone, C. (2013), Positive Psychology for Coaches and Health Professionals, online course materials,

Three Facts About Emotions

Emotions signal to us to pay attention. They are quite literally “energy in 256px-Drill_instructor_at_the_Officer_Candidate_Schoolmotion”, as the chemicals in our brains let us know about risks or opportunities facing us. Learning to recognise what our emotions are telling us has been a tremendous benefit to human development.

Marquis De Vauvenargues, a french philosopher stated “Emotions have taught mankind to reason“. Seeing how our emotions actually give us important data helps us work out what is going on, how we need to react and subsequently how we can get the best outcome from a situation. Fundamental to all of this is understanding that ‘you’ are not ‘your thought’.

The folks at 6 Seconds, the Emotional Intelligence network, are brilliant at explaining this and provide some amazing and helpful tools to help us develop our emotional literacy – increasing seen as essential skills at work, play and rest. Working out what your emotions are telling you, and then what to do about it, is a key part to developing your sense of well being and life satisfaction. Check out their latest 2 minute YouTube video that explains …

Three Essential Facts about Feelings