Remember those dreams you had as a kid?
The ones where you’d confidently state you’d be singer, an artist, a circus performer? Or perhaps you wanted to be a scientist, an inventor, or a teacher?
I wanted to either be an artist in a studio, or an actress. I’d write and perform plays whenever I got the chance and an unsuspecting audience. I’d set up my paints in the back garden and recreate the apple tree in fantastic detail and colours. The time just whizzed by. What did you think you’d be ‘when you were a grown up’?
For most of us, we don’t actually become what we say at 7, 8 or 9 years old. For a lucky few however, those early seeds do provide the actual signposting of a lifelong passion. My twin sister was, as far as I can tell, born knowing she wanted to be a doctor. When she graduated from her medical school, I was in tears of joy, recognising the dedication, determination and belief she had put in to realising that childhood ambition.
So what does that say to the rest of us? What if I told you that those early assertions of purpose do actually hold the kernel to your life satisfaction and happiness?
Paulo Coelho in ‘The Alchemist’ talks about the heart giving out nudges that, when listened to quietly, provide all the insight and guidance a person could need. The heart shouts out the loudest in the young but as we get older, things get in our way. We learn to get scared, we start to doubt our abilities and take on other peoples’ perspectives and experiences.
When we stop listening to our heart and allow the fear to take over, we settle, we give up and our lives are less fulfilled as a result. Reflecting back on what made our hearts sing in childhood, what we confidently proclaimed to any pesky inquiring adult, may have more bearing on your current adult life than you think.
Tip 1: Reflect fully on what you wanted as a child.
Behind the immature language, what were you really saying? If it was ‘to be a doctor’, was it the helping people, the status of the white coat, your interest in how our bodies work? What, in more adult language, lies at the core of what you were saying?
Tip 2: Consider where and how you lost track of time as a child and ask yourself whether you are still bringing those things into your life now.
As well as creating and performing, it was whizzing along lanes on my bike, enjoying the sense of freedom and speed. Cycling still opens up the same feelings for me and I know I am simply ‘better’ after time spent outdoors. What about you?
Tip 3: Look at the small, tiny ways you could bring your ‘childhood’ dreams into your life now.
Looking out of my window to the Clifton suspension bridge from my new studio base last week, I suddenly recalled my ‘artist in a studio’ ambition. And here it was. Creating, yes – coaching my clients is definitely that, coming up with new ways to support a smooth and fruitful positive transition. Working by myself, in an environment far removed from a typical office situation.
Speaking at the launch of a new network for Bristol based PAs last week, I was also bringing into my life the other aspect that so enthralled me as a child – performing. With my adult eyes, I can see how standing in front of a crowd, with a message to share, fulfils me at a very deep level.
So what about you?
How can you recall your young self and that youthful heart – what nudges was your heart giving you then and what can you do now?
I’d love to know what resonates here with you so do get in touch.
Remember those dreams you had as a kid? The ones where you’d confidently state you’d be singer, an artist, a circus performer? Or perhaps you wanted to be a scientist, an inventor, or a teacher? I wanted to either be an artist in a studio, or an actress. I’d write and perform plays whenever I [...]
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